Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Don't give away the key

I just discovered Relient K's song Be My Escape. I love this song, except for one thing. The main point.

Here's the chorus:
And I’ve been housing all this doubt and insecurity and
I’ve been locked inside that house all the while You hold the key
And I’ve been dying to get out and that might be the death of me
And even though, there’s no way in knowing where to go, promise I’m going because
I gotta get outta here
I’m stuck inside this rut that I fell into by mistake
I gotta get outta here
And I’m begging You, I’m begging You, I’m begging You to be my escape.

Does this bother anybody else? Everybody falls into ruts of insecurity, traps themselves in houses of doubt. But why, WHY do they hand away the key?

Maybe they don't realize they've handed away the key. This is Gen Y (or is it Z by now?) speaking, after all. Lack of accountability and tendency to blame others backfires in moments like this, because if they can't own the problem, they can't own the solution, either. The idea of holding their own key might be inconceivable.

Maybe the locked door on that house of doubt and insecurity can only be unlocked from the outside. But I'm skeptical. I think we hand away keys to our happiness without even looking to see if the door can be opened from the inside. Why would you not check, first? Why would you choose to be a beggar if there was a chance you didn't have to be?

Maybe not everybody hands their keys away willy-nilly and then begs others to save them from themselves. But I've done it enough in the past (yeah, yeah, yeah, beggar is pathetic, but it is the easy way out) for this song to get under my skin.

No more. Today is a new day. It's MY house, MY doubt, MY insecurity, and no one else holds the key. I do. I'm going to hold the triumph, too. Just as soon as I find that keyhole.


  1. "....if they can't own the problem, they can't own the solution, either." This line from your post says it all. I own my problems and I solve them. By the same token, I always determine who owns a problem and if it's not me, I don't tackle it.

  2. I bet that philosophy has gotten you far in life, Nancy. I certainly do better when I abide by it.